Tami Reiss

Now that I have a steady job, this blog might as well get more personal. As always the theme will be how connections rule the world.

I’ve posted in the past about the importance of putting things out there, actually requesting something to happen.  My philosophy is that if you don’t tell the universe (and preferably an actual human being) what you want, chances of it actually happening are slim.

So here’s where it gets personal… two years ago a tall reddish-headed guy walks into my temple. Because of my innate attraction to the gingery folk I go over and introduce myself. He ends up being a great guy who I completely crush on but is totally immersed in a long term relationship. We become friendly and share many mutual friends. Over a year later, that relationship comes to a crashing halt and he is devastated.

On a hike with a mutual friend I say “When so and so is no longer broken, I would really like to go on a date with him. Please tell him then.” It turns out that our friend didn’t think it was appropriate to wait and told him pretty immediately. It was a good idea because my crush spent the next 7 months figuring things out and then evaluating whether or not he wanted to date me too.

Last week this all came out during proclamations of mutual attraction. We’ve had the most excellent week together and I’m finally understanding what everyone else says about how easy a relationship can be.

I’m not saying that this is the guy I’m going to spend the rest of my life with (though ask me in a few more months and I may), but there’s very little way that we’d be able to explore the possibility of what we can create together had I and our mutual friend not passed the word along…